real love

"...the difference between these two kinds of love--common love and real love--can be conceived of as the difference between receiving and giving. It’s why St. Francis of Assisi was led--led right to the point, actually--to pray that he might seek “not so much to be loved as to love.”

Therefore, those who have the most to gain have the greatest desire to deceive. Those who have the least to gain--and who want nothing, like the saints--can love perfectly. And this perfect, real love is no illusion. "



-- taken from the psychology of..